Is is a sin to be a "Divorcee"?

7 years I was a divorcee until i got married to my current husband. During the 7 years of being a divorcee, a lot of things have been said upon me just because my status was "DIVORCEE" and many times the word "Janda tu" was said to me. The worst thing was when the one that said was from a mouth of another female.

None of us are exempt from going through divorce or experiencing it in the lives of the best of our children or family members. Hence it is very important that we watch very carefully what we say about those who are divorced and how we treat them, speak to them or look at them. In many instances, two individually brilliant people divorce, not because one is bad but because together, they were unable to survive. This is proven by the fact that in many cases both are then very happily married to others.

Remember, if your mouth or actions become hurtful to those divorced, there may come a time when you will be dumbfounded by repetition of the same if not worse in your own home! Never be from those who frown upon, look down upon, criticize or gossip about those divorced, making them feel unworthy.

The Messenger pbuh chose to marry a divorced woman and repeated this type of choice. Had they been "bad" simply because they were divorced, he would have been the furthest away from them. Shame upon those parents who do not allow their children to consider a divorced spouse. They need to know that many people say that marriages to those previously divorced are more likely to be everlasting. May the Almighty guide us all and grant us ALL spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes. Aameen