Is the workplace fertile ground for bad manners? Sure seems that way.Common courtesy doesn't exist anymore?Civility, manners, and politeness are nostalgic memories.It's really sad to see the new comers at my work place has the image as a Muslim men and women.(With goatee and the girls wearing head scarfs) but it's really sad to see how they communicate. They judged people who are just not in their category and it's sad to hear when they talked about the hukum of religion. They are so ignorant.
I might not be religious and the way I look perhaps doesn't look like them.(I look kinda funky- but thats just me)but I don't judge. I always wonder why one likes to judge others because then we will be too busy judging others that we will forget to look at ourselves. And I never stop doing things to better myself and that includes brushing my knowledge on religion and worldly stuffs.
Sometimes its really sad when I talked to some of the staff at work, the way they answer to my question, 1st: they do not look at your face when they answer. 2nd: Sometimes they don't even bother to answer because they feel that me and my pantry gang are not in their category( they feel that they are religious and we are not)3rd: the way they answer to you is just too rude. 4th: Smiles are sadaqah and they hardly smiles unless to their own group.
Its sad to see their attitude and they bring shame to the name of ISLAM. Islam doesn't teach all these attitudes. They claim to be the follower of the prophet? God! If only Prophet Muhammad is here, I bet he (pbuh)too would be ashamed to claim them as his follower.
Dear Allah, please open their heart to the truth of Islam and cleanse their dark heart. They are parents and they have children. Its sad to see those poor children having these people as their parents and generations after generations will be taught the wrong way of life. Prophet Muhammad(pbuh) had fought for Islam and how beautiful the religion is. Allah has blessed us with the most beautiful religion which taught us all the beauty of life.
Everyday I go to work hoping to see these people change to be courteous. They don't understand by being rude will not only tarnish the name of Islam but also it reflects on their upbringing which brings back to their parents reputation. God have mercy on these people.
RUDENESS IS CONTAGIOUS BUT SO IS A SMILE.
Manners, personality, caring for others, cleanliness, a system of values and faith, are a few of the life links that connect us all. Smiling can be a habit; we probably can't really measure its benefits entirely. I just know that smiling faces are welcome in my life. If I've learned to be one of them, then I'm more successful than I hoped. Make an effort to smile more often, and you'll find you have more to smile about.
Top 5 Reasons Why You Should Smile More Often
The ability to smile is a gift to humans, though I swear my Frog smiles at me; I've seen a bird or two who made me wonder; and I've seen a cat which not only smiled, but could give you a look that would freeze an elephant. Well, maybe all that's not backed up by research but I know my animals!!
Smiling fills the soul, yours and others. The only time I was irritated by a smile was while I was in labor with my first son. After 24 hours of that fun, my husband had the most irritating grin pasted on his face. I wanted to smack it off, but I was busy giving life. Finally, even the nurse said, "Dad-to-be, would you please take your grin out to the hall, we're working in here." Ha! Served him right. Ok, that was a temporary glitch in our marriage but birth labor hurts.
Chronic Complaining
Now, who wants to be around gloom and doom all the time? You know the ones I'm talking about. Those chronic complaining "friends." They're in every office, by every water fountain and on the front pew of the church; they never have a good thing to say about anyone or anything and they can soak you with their depression quicker than a him-a-caine.
I 've been known to spin in the other direction at mere glance from their direction. No way am I stoppin' by to say "how's your day goin'?" I'm thinking: "Life is tough for everyone; get OVER it; Yada yada yada; give it a break." I have enough reasons to eat chocolate without listening to horror stories of pain.
Bad News Is Everywhere
I'm a sympathetic person by nature (stop it- I am too, you don't know me). But, we have to survive. Bad news is everywhere! Between Chris Dobb on CNN, Keith Doberman (ok, Oberman, SHEEESH), on MSNBC (his only saving grace is he can't stand Bush or Bill O'Reilly which makes him my almost hero) and the slurpiness of "Bush-Limbaugh-worship" from Hannity and Colmes on Fox, I think the world's flipped over to the dark side of the moon. I'm not in love with the Poly-ana types either, so don't go there.
Local TV Channels vs Cable
Still, I'm thinking we could smile a little more. Due to a recent move and the lack of funds for satellite TV at this moment, I've been forced to watch local news. Surprise. Some funny guy on TV3 makes me laugh and at 3.00 a.m. that's not easy.
I've been turning on easy listening music in the evenings, reading books, who knows what's next. I think I was humming doing dishes the other night. Not hearing about the war and politics 24/7 might be turning me into a kinder, gentler person. Well?? It could.
I'm warning you, I could start smiling all the time. It could spread clear across the street and that old grumpy guy might even smash out a grin.
Smiling could cure lots of things, I'm thinking. Maybe even contribute to world peace, but then what would Miss Malaysia do? Well, she'll think of something, I'm sure, like maybe get off drugs or quit the porn movies. Come on, let's give them a second chance, right.
Smiling in Other Places
I'm not an expert on world cultures, but I don't think smiling means the same in every country. I don't like it when Chavez smiles, nor that Iranian leader what ever his name is again, and personally I don't think Bin Laden has ever smiled without a gun in his hand...so you can't trust every smile. Still, in a peaceful land, I think it's nice. I've even tried smiling when I didn't feel like it though a few people flinched when I did that, so maybe I need more practice.
Fake It 'Til You Make It
Frankly, I like pretense. We all deserve a little of it. If I'm at Carrefour or Tesco and you're a clerk who's having a lousy day, please pretend you aren't. If you're the guy at Mc D's who's just been given that few ringgit raise, please don't spit in my coke. And if you're the clerk at the 7-11 and I'm trying to get your attention so I can pre-pay for my gas and make it home before dark, but you're so busy arguing on the cell phone with WHOMEVER, well, please pretend you're good at your job and take my money. Sigh.
I'm not asking much, just a little fake cheer. You don't have to do the "zippety-do dah" dance, but just fake it a bit to help us all get through the day. I've faked a lot of things in my day. (shhhh) It works for the most part. Once in a while I forget I'm faking it and actually feel better.
Body Language Speaks Loudly
Body Language is always speaking. Smiling speaks. This little non-verbal symbol of acceptance is a powerful little tool. I'd like to see it more so here's the deal. I will - if you will. Smile, I mean. Let's do it. My smile is bigger than your smile. Come on, it'll be fun. I'll be watching you!
OOps, I almost forgot to give you the 5 reasons. Here they are...
Side Effects, Benefits and 5 Reasons to Smile:
1. Smiling Lowers Blood Pressure. (Well now, it could. If not yours, mine.)
2. Smiling makes others want to be around you. (So be careful who you give the smiles to, if you get my drift.)
3. Smiling triggers hormone production. (I don't know that for sure myself but I read it and thought it sounded good enough to try, so if you do it and find it to be true, please let me know what happened if you can legally talk about it.)
4. Smiling is a good facial exercise. (Trust me, I've seen some faces who could use exercise. Yes?)
5. Smiling is Contagious. (Finally a good contagious disease you can get on the plane with and not be arrested if you spread it around. Who knew?
Let the smiles begin! Especially during hard times! So for those big fan of AYAPIN at my work place..be more courteous and smile more please
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