Looking For Success in Life is By Submitting to Allah

Success is the aim of everyone. Invariably, every man and woman in his/her own hopes to achieve success. For most mankind however , success is viewed in terms of materialistic pursuits, people essentially aspire to attain peace, contentment, happiness and ease in this life.

However, in the practical realms, most materialist have these dreams shattered, since the price for material pursuits include fatigue, downfall, restlessness, heart ache, sorrow, insecurity and all forms of negative results.

Despite this negative consequences nonetheless, most people to remain so caught up in the sway of materialism that they pay little or no importance to the purification of their souls. This is mainly due to the motto of the materialist's world: " The end justifies the means". In fact, when one look at the religious people (attempting to purify their souls) then seems confused themselves, that they leave the materialist contented with their  material pursuits.

On contrary, the true believer remains the only one who is certain of what he is about. This is due to the fact that his conviction and certainty spring from the Guidance of Allah, the Glorious. Therefore he/she starts from the soundest base, one which he has no doubt. He/she therefore, turns to the All-Knowing, Allah, to tell him what is success, because he/she is aware that Allah created him/her, and He, the Almighty, would best know in what his/her success lies. Therefore, he listens carefully to what Allah says, believes in it, analyses it, implements it, and is absolutely sure that it would give him/her success, because Allah is above lying and deception, as He , the All-Knowing, is perfect.

Never take her as an OPTION

She came to you asking for attention, you said you were busy.. She called out to you in the middle of the night, you said you wanna sleep.  She fought with you for no reason just to spend time talking to the one she needs the most, you said she is impossible.. yes she is bad..demanding..possessive..jealous, weak, emotional
 And yes she throws a lot of tantrums right?... But remember...once upon a time when you were ALONE, you look at the moon and said "I'll give Everything for Someone who disturb me all the time, I'll never leave her alone, I'll never let her cry... SHE still LOVE YOU

Maybe you should just try to understand her ♥

To My Precious Lil Prince

This is for you my precious son, through the years and all the tears, I am very proud of you.
You achieved a lot of success and all your goals for primary school .....onto secondary school you now go. You did well and showed them all you could with high hopes and plans anew.

 The future has lots to offer that's true. Be wise, be glad, be happy, and show others by your example. 
 You've got five more years of learning, and probably a couple more with University after that.
 The time for you to become a man is nearing, where did that little boy go. That's ok because I know I gave you roots to grow. I now give you wings to soar. Go on, be well, do great things and more success will follow all of your heart's desire for sure.

 

As for your future is concerned, aim for the stars because for a born fighter only the sky is the limit. No matter where you go or how successful you become, never lose faith in God. Always be humble. I will always think about you. Right from when you were a little kid and till today, you have only given me reasons to hold out heads up in pride. I am so lucky to have you in my life.

 I love my son, he is the best thing that ever happened to me. I see in his eyes my own soul, I touch his hand and I feel my heart skip with great joy for the wonderful blessing that is given me!

Is is a sin to be a "Divorcee"?

7 years I was a divorcee until i got married to my current husband. During the 7 years of being a divorcee, a lot of things have been said upon me just because my status was "DIVORCEE" and many times the word "Janda tu" was said to me. The worst thing was when the one that said was from a mouth of another female.

None of us are exempt from going through divorce or experiencing it in the lives of the best of our children or family members. Hence it is very important that we watch very carefully what we say about those who are divorced and how we treat them, speak to them or look at them. In many instances, two individually brilliant people divorce, not because one is bad but because together, they were unable to survive. This is proven by the fact that in many cases both are then very happily married to others.

Remember, if your mouth or actions become hurtful to those divorced, there may come a time when you will be dumbfounded by repetition of the same if not worse in your own home! Never be from those who frown upon, look down upon, criticize or gossip about those divorced, making them feel unworthy.

The Messenger pbuh chose to marry a divorced woman and repeated this type of choice. Had they been "bad" simply because they were divorced, he would have been the furthest away from them. Shame upon those parents who do not allow their children to consider a divorced spouse. They need to know that many people say that marriages to those previously divorced are more likely to be everlasting. May the Almighty guide us all and grant us ALL spouses who will be the coolness of our eyes. Aameen

Blessed Marriage

Your relationship with your life partner should be of great friendship, great trust, and exceptional care. There should be no embarrassment in showing the deepest levels of compassion for each other. We shouldn't feel embarrassed in being serviceable to each other. There should be no shame in cooking, cleaning, doing your partner's laundry, opening the door, taking off shoes, massaging and doing all sorts of kind acts. We shouldn't have to worry about our egos. We should make each other comfortable to the level where there is no hesitation to express our deepest forms of love. To the level that the husband is respected as a King for his service towards his wife, and the wife is treated like a Queen for her service to her husband. And there is an atmosphere of giving instead of expecting. No one person should take the other's humility as their weakness or abuse them for it. It takes two to preserve the peace and tranquillity in a marriage. And all the above requires love and mercy!

I am glad to be married to my best friend.  The best friendship is that which is between a husband and wife! If your husband/wife is not your best friend then the marriage is most likely to suffer.Love your spouse by loving his/her choices and emotions. Loving a person means respecting his/her ego.

One of the greatest means of attaining happiness in marriage is kindness. Kindness is something easy: a cheerful face and a gentle word. So try to adopt this kindness towards your husband / wife – until it becomes ingrained in you – and you will win his/her heart and make him/her be affectionate and compassionate towards you.

I am so blessed to be your wife Mahal ko

Dear Mahal Ko

I wanted to write this letter to let you know that I am thinking about you and that I love you so much. I know we have our differences and we were made into two different people, but I believe we were made us just for each other. I appreciate all that you have done for me and all that you continue to do to show your love for me. Thank You!
You make me smile when I don't feel like smiling; you make me happy when I am sad and you bring joy and peace into my everyday worries. For that, I am so blessed to have you as my spouse and I am thankful for you every day.

Everyday you give me joy and I can never thank Allah enough

I cherish each day I can wake up next to you and spend time together, whether it's a lot of time or a small block of time. I also cherish each night that we share our bed together; knowing that we can end our night as one holding each other, and letting go of the worries from that day.
I often ask the question, "Can I really be this blessed to have you in my life?" My answer is always a resounding yes because how can I complain about someone as wonderful as you are. You were wonderful enough for me to marry you, so I know that what made you so special back then is still shining bright in you.
On this day, I wanted to thank you for loving me, thank you for putting up with me, thank you for being patient with me, thank you for making me smile, thank you for serving me and most of all, thank you for being the wonderful person that I have come to love so much.
Please forgive me if I have ever done or said anything to hurt you, because I want us walk this journey together in love and a renewed commitment to each other.
I hope our marriage will forever be blessed not just as a marriage, but as a "holy matrimony." My sincere prayer is that we can continue to walk this journey side-by-side and day-by-day loving each other, until "death parts us."
Love Always,

Your loving wife 

Ellie

The Adjustment ...

While I’m not a second wife, I have been in contact with many of them and I can assure you that second wives encounter their own share of adjustment issues, and indeed are sometimes completely blindsided by them. I even have friends who is 3rd wife. She told me that her husband gave her a RM1mil plus condo, a luxury car and lots of money but....

Many people assume that since most second wives entered their marriages knowing it would be a polygamous situation, they are not entitled to their share of adjustment issues. This is not only unfair, it’s downright stupid.

Every marriage, polygamous or monogamous, involves an adjustment period and goes through different stages – some harmonious, some discordant. So second marriages should be allowed that room to struggle just like first marriages. The thing is, with second marriages this is happening in the “shadow” of the husband’s experiences with his first wife. So if his first wife was more acquiescent or more domestic or more strong-willed (whatever the case), the second wife will feel she’s being compared to that. And some unwise husbands even harp on such things to their wives (“The other one doesn’t talk back,” “The other one dresses up more,” “The other one [fill-in-the-blank]“). So there may be a sense for a second wife that she has to “live up to” or “excel” her co-wife.

A second wife is also often going through the ups and downs of early marriage at a time when her co-wife is far past all that. Early marriage involves power struggles, boundary setting, cooperation style finding, etc. These things don’t usually happen in complete bliss. They are struggles. They involve conflict and emotion. Can you imagine going through all that feeling that your co-wife has already ironed it all out and is more stable in her relationship with your husband? And what if your style is completely different from that of your co-wife? Some husbands deal better with such a situation than others. Some husbands expect to behave with their second wife exactly the same way they deal with their first, and this does not always work. So sometimes second wives have a double-hard time of it because they have to find their own way and disabuse their husbands of the idea that they are a clone at the same time!

In my opinion one of the worst things second wives have to deal with is the wagging tongues of others. People who are normally kind and generous and forgiving can grow forked tongues and horns when the subject is a second wife. Not only is she accused of being a home-wrecker, but any problems she has are considered deserved, so she suffers twice. This can make for a very lonely road.

So being a second wife can be as much of a struggle as being a first wife. Of course the methods of coming out healthy and victorious are the same: du’a, sabr, and leaning on Allah. If a polygamous family can agree to meet all their challenges with humility and trust in Allah it can be the most rewarding kind of family, because it offers so much room for spiritual growth, maturity, and the gaining of wisdom.