The worst type of betrayal is disloyalty from someone you love. Without doubt, being let down by those you trust most can hurt the most. This most commonly occurs when a person discovers their partner has been cheating on them. The feeling this invokes tends to be along the lines of heart-wrenching agony. It has been likened to feeling like your heart has been ripped out of your chest and torn apart, being in so much pain and suffering that you can't breathe or even just leaving you with an empty nothingness inside. Other emotions also rise to the surface, embarrassment and the dread that comes with the question; “Am I the last to know?”
When an affair rocks a relationship it can be very hard to overcome. Even the ones who try to patch up their relationship can find themselves in a constant rerun every time they have an argument where everything from the past is once again brought up and rehashed. There is only so much of this that anyone can take. The majority of people cannot get past an affair no matter what they do, hyper-vigilance of the other person's actions and whereabouts can get quite tiring and the wondering if it will happen again gets tedious while the perpetrator of the affair can find themselves feeling suffocated and even hide innocent things for fear that it will make their partner jealous or suspicious. This is always a mistake.
It is possible to mend the relationship however both parties must seriously want it to happen and make a huge effort at repairing the trust and love between them. To the person who has been cheated on but feels that their relationship is worth another chance I say this - draw the lines now. Make it very clear what will be tolerated by you in the future. In this way, if you do discover anymore circumstances where your trust has been betrayed, they will have no excuses and no future chances because you have laid it on the line for them and they agreed at the time. If you let them away with it a second time then why would they even attempt to be faithful in future. If they have that little respect for your feelings then why waste time with them anyway. Some things are not worth saving after all. But remember that everyone has the potential to stray from the right path at times and we are only human, we all make mistakes but it's important to learn from our mistakes so if your partner can't see that then let them go. We can all manage to get by alone for a while. If you do break up then make it a clean one, it's the easiest in the long-run.
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