Everyone gets angry once in awhile. Its only natural. But sometimes, you just happen to be in a situation where you do not know why someone is so angry that he/she cant forgive you when you do not know what you did wrong in the first place.
When someone does something wrong to you people deal with situations and circumstances in many different ways. Some people are very easy going in nature and can let things go pretty easily. For others, all though it may take a while they will eventually let it rest as well. There are those however who cannot seem to ever let things go. These people have a very hard time forgiving and forgetting and tend to hold on to grudges for a very long time.
There are many reasons people hold on to grudges. For me personally, it is all about the intention. I typically don't stay mad because you did something that ended up making me angry. It's all about your intentions. If I feel like you intentionally did something to upset or hurt me, I may have a hard time letting that go. For a lot of people malicious intentions of others are the reason that it is so hard to forgive. But is it really worth it to hold on to a grudge?Holding a grudge is not worth it.
Most people don't realize the negative effect it has on their everyday life. As hard as it is, when someone does something wrong to you just let it go. It's not easy but it is the best decision you can make for yourself. If you chose not to do so you will live a miserable existence until you do. While you're sitting around moping and fussing and just being mad about the situation, the person who offended you could care less. In fact you are not even a thought in their mind. You are making yourself miserable and you are staying angry while they probably do not even remember the situation.
They have since happily moved on with their lives but you are still just fixated on the past and cannot let it go.Holding on to the past for two long can have a lot of consequences. Besides the fact that you are unhappy, the stress alone can take a toll on your health. You will never be happy if you cannot let go of the past. The past, like many things are beyond your control. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can.Life is to short to hold on to grudges. Time just flies by so fast and before you know it, it's almost over. There's only one life to live. Make sure to live it to the fullest and live it well.
Hey guys if there seems to be a constant stream of bad news coming our way but we must remeber that there are a lot of great things in this world. We need to learn to program our mind to focus on the many great things about this world. Here are just a few reminders Can you hear the birds singing?
Can you believe its free to listen to this sweet music. How can not be inspired by it.The flowers in the garden. It really lifts that scene. The natural colours. The gentle breeze in your face. Can you feel that? The fresh airThe smile from the stranger. They didn't have to but they did. You see there a lot of good people out there. Of course it's the bad guys who get the press. For every one robbery that makes the news there's probably ten unheard of stories of people helping an old lady cross the road.
The greeting from friends and family. They are invaluable to us. They are special and we lucky to have them.The sun rising in the morning.That great song. That wonderful Beatles composition or that sweet Beethoven Symphony. A lot of musicians write songs about the most wonderful things. It can only be good for us.That great movie.What about a nice picnic.Isn't that a lovely view? Don't let it pass you by.
The sound of a baby crying or a baby laughing. Doesn't it make your heart jump for joy.Lets do something spontaneous today, a break from the norm.What about reading that classic book. It really entertained me. What a great story.Keep reminding yourself of these things and you'll appreciate the good things in this world.
When someone does something wrong to you people deal with situations and circumstances in many different ways. Some people are very easy going in nature and can let things go pretty easily. For others, all though it may take a while they will eventually let it rest as well. There are those however who cannot seem to ever let things go. These people have a very hard time forgiving and forgetting and tend to hold on to grudges for a very long time.
There are many reasons people hold on to grudges. For me personally, it is all about the intention. I typically don't stay mad because you did something that ended up making me angry. It's all about your intentions. If I feel like you intentionally did something to upset or hurt me, I may have a hard time letting that go. For a lot of people malicious intentions of others are the reason that it is so hard to forgive. But is it really worth it to hold on to a grudge?Holding a grudge is not worth it.
Most people don't realize the negative effect it has on their everyday life. As hard as it is, when someone does something wrong to you just let it go. It's not easy but it is the best decision you can make for yourself. If you chose not to do so you will live a miserable existence until you do. While you're sitting around moping and fussing and just being mad about the situation, the person who offended you could care less. In fact you are not even a thought in their mind. You are making yourself miserable and you are staying angry while they probably do not even remember the situation.
They have since happily moved on with their lives but you are still just fixated on the past and cannot let it go.Holding on to the past for two long can have a lot of consequences. Besides the fact that you are unhappy, the stress alone can take a toll on your health. You will never be happy if you cannot let go of the past. The past, like many things are beyond your control. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can.Life is to short to hold on to grudges. Time just flies by so fast and before you know it, it's almost over. There's only one life to live. Make sure to live it to the fullest and live it well.
Hey guys if there seems to be a constant stream of bad news coming our way but we must remeber that there are a lot of great things in this world. We need to learn to program our mind to focus on the many great things about this world. Here are just a few reminders Can you hear the birds singing?
Can you believe its free to listen to this sweet music. How can not be inspired by it.The flowers in the garden. It really lifts that scene. The natural colours. The gentle breeze in your face. Can you feel that? The fresh airThe smile from the stranger. They didn't have to but they did. You see there a lot of good people out there. Of course it's the bad guys who get the press. For every one robbery that makes the news there's probably ten unheard of stories of people helping an old lady cross the road.
The greeting from friends and family. They are invaluable to us. They are special and we lucky to have them.The sun rising in the morning.That great song. That wonderful Beatles composition or that sweet Beethoven Symphony. A lot of musicians write songs about the most wonderful things. It can only be good for us.That great movie.What about a nice picnic.Isn't that a lovely view? Don't let it pass you by.
The sound of a baby crying or a baby laughing. Doesn't it make your heart jump for joy.Lets do something spontaneous today, a break from the norm.What about reading that classic book. It really entertained me. What a great story.Keep reminding yourself of these things and you'll appreciate the good things in this world.
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